Having sex with your friends is a polarizing activity. I am not a big fan of getting drunk and just seeing what happens in any aspect of my life, to be honest, but especially this one! To be very clear: this article is specifically about fucking your friends in a onetime event or limited-engagement few times, and then remaining platonic friends with them. I am simply offering a road map for anyone who has ever wanted to fuck a friend and then continue a healthy friendship with that person afterwards that may or may not include fucking again from time to time. I spoke with more than 30 queer humans while writing this piece and here are some of the reasons why they enjoy having sex with their pals:.

Friendships add so much spark to our lives—helping us find humor and possibility in spells of misfortune, and cheering us on in stretches of celebration and transition. We swap stories over meals, and fill moments in time with laughter and like-mindedness—adding to the family we may or may not have. So what happens when you find yourself attracted to one of your confidantes. Will having sex with your friend ruin the relationship you built? Some might say that casual lovemaking with someone familiar provides a safe sexual outlet, while granting both parties the ability to live freely and unattached. We linked up with a few experts to disassemble the myriad of risks that lurk behind the smokescreen of the elusive friends with benefits dynamic, as well as some friendly rules to play by. But be warned: your no-strings-attached agreement may create more baggage than you think….

Obviously taking friendship to the next level tends to go wrong for a lot of people, for us, it made our friendship even stronger. It made me realize how much we trusted each other. Because we had an already established friendship, there was a huge amount of trust between us and this was clearer than ever when we had sex. Sleeping together came with a sense of ease—it felt totally safe because of our existing connection.

In college, you'll make your college friends — and perhaps your future best men. At work, you have work friends. If you're a guy, it's completely fine to have a female best friend. If you're a woman?